Navigating Wedding Roles: The Whole Team

When it comes to planning your wedding, there will be so many people with so many opinions, but when it comes down to it, you have a team of people who matter and who will be involved - in some capacity - in your wedding planning process. It's important for you to know who is on your wedding planning team and what role each person plays.

Today we are starting our Navigating Wedding Roles series. Over the next few weeks, we are going to break down the roles of each person on your wedding planning team, but before we do that, let's talk about who is on your team and how everyone can prepare.


Besides your wedding planner, photographer, florist, and all other vendors and creative partners, your wedding planning team may consist of some or all of the following:

  • Bride
  • Groom
  • Bride's Parents
  • Groom's Parents
  • Stepparents
  • Grandparents
  • Maid/Matron of Honor
  • Best Man

So how can this team prepare for the wedding planning process?


Get to know each other. Like any good team, you're going to operate best if you know each other well. You don't necessarily have to develop a close relationship with everyone, but at least develop a friendly one. Make it your goal to get to the point where everyone is able to call or email each other with comfort.

Get to know the new family. Pay attention to conversations. Start familiarizing yourself with the people you may meet at showers or at your rehearsal dinner and wedding. You don't have to memorize specifics, but at least try to remember names and relationships (i.e., Jennifer, marketing executive, lives in Atlanta, married to David).

Go to the gym. Exercise is so beneficial in many ways, and if you're staying active, not only will you look great for the wedding, but you'll relieve a lot of stress.

Schedule wedding planning time. Be intentional with your calendar. Everyone is busy. Rather than scrambling at the last minute to get everything done, be sure to schedule in some wedding planning time each week. And stick to those little appointments :)

Make salon appointments.  Whether it's a massage, facial, mani/pedi, or a haircut, a little pampering never hurt anyone. If you're wanting to try out a new haircut or new color, now's the time to do it...not 3 weeks before the wedding.

Get together and talk about nonwedding stuff, too. Please do not let every conversation you have be centered around the wedding. Make it a point to have dinner with your parents, or FaceTime them, to catch up and NOT talk about wedding. And be sure to declare at least one night a week with your fiance a "wedding free" night, where you're not allowed to talk about the wedding :)

What other tips do you have?

Special thanks to Emily Post for these tips!