How to Choose Your Wedding Party

How to Choose Your Wedding Party | Photo by Angela Cox | Bespoken

Choosing your wedding party is very important to most brides and grooms because you want some of the most important people in your life standing next to you on your big day. Most wedding parties consist of 8-12 people but can have more or less depending on the style, type, and size of the wedding. Stuck on trying to figure out who to invite to stand next to you at the altar? Hopefully, I can help you narrow your options down.

How to Choose Your Wedding Party | Photo by Angela Cox | Bespoken

The Maid of Honor: Typically, this is the bride’s sister. If a bride has more than one sister, she usually invites the one closest in age to be the MOH. (If you’re lucky and have two sisters and one is married, you can have a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor!) No sister? Ask your best friend. Two best friends? Who says you can’t have two maids of honor? Some brides have even chosen their brother or close male friend to be their maid of honor, and have just given them more of a masculine role. Today’s wedding rules are not what they were yesterday; you can get away with quite a bit. No matter what - choose someone you can trust and rely on. The MOH has many responsibilities, so if your best friend is a little scatter-brained, you may want to consider someone else.

The Best Man: This is basically the same as above. Traditionally, the groom asks his brother(s) to be the best man; however, a close female friend, sister, or any other good friend may be your best man. Consider your dad, too! BONUS TIP: Pick someone who gets along with the bride!

How to Choose Your Wedding Party | Photo by Angela Cox | Bespoken

Bridesmaids and Groomsmen: Ask close friends to join you on your big day. Siblings trump friends! If your groom has a sister (or bride has a brother), consider adding them to your bridal party. And remember to choose friends who will be friends with you long after you say, ”I do.” DON’T ask someone to be in your wedding just because you were in hers/his.

Flower Girl and Ring Bearer: While not every bride and groom opt to have a little one walk down the aisle, many who are close to small children definitely choose to include them in their wedding. BONUS TIP: Since children aren’t expected to act like adults, try to make sure your flower girl and ring bearer are at least four years old.

Still frustrated? Keep it simple: Choose friends who you consider to be family.

All images:  Angela Cox. Take a look at the rest of this gorgeous wedding here.

Wedding Encouragement & Advice from a Mom

Wedding Encouragement & Advice from Lysa TerKeurst

It's Mother's Day. A day that can mean so many things to so many different people. But there's one thing we can all agree on...moms are special. And when they offer advice, we listen to it (even if they think we aren't).

So a few months ago, I read an article on Southern Weddings from an amazing woman and mama. Three of her five children are getting married this year, so she graciously shared some of her thoughts with the ladies at Southern Weddings. And I was very moved, and bookmarked this article to share with you today...

From the wise and loving mom and bestselling author, Lysa TerKeurst...

"...more than helping to plan the weddings, I want to prepare my kids for their marriages.

I’m especially wanting to prepare them for day one of their marriage. And I’m quickly learning that weddings are perfect for teaching young couples a crucial lesson:

The most happy couples are the ones who are most able to embrace imperfections.

Honestly, I’m still learning this lesson myself.

Whether you are the mother, the bride herself, or a hopeful soon-to-be-bride, can I take your hand and whisper a truth we all need?

No wedding is perfect.

The more we resist this reality, the less we’ll enjoy this most special day. But even more tragic for brides, the less you’ll enjoy your marriage.

There’s a little known secret about imperfections. What makes things most beautiful, most memorable, and most notable are the unexpected gifts wrapped in imperfections...

But here’s the great news. Imperfections help others uncross their arms, relax, and giggle. People will love you even more when they see you display grace in a tough place.

So embrace the unexpected.

Smile at the crazy.

Laugh at the unplanned.

And relax.

If you bring the happy, your day will be beautiful."

Isn't that refreshing? And a relief? I think so. Please be sure head on over to Southern Weddings to read the full article, as well as to see some beautiful images of Lysa's children.