How to Be the Best Bridesmaid

Being a bridesmaid can be a bittersweet experience. On one hand, bridesmaids get to spend amazing quality time with the bride-to-be. The giddy lunch dates and dress fittings make for incredible memories. On the other hand, all of the tasks that come with planning a wedding can be overwhelming. Bridesmaids may feel lost or incapable of helping to pull off the perfect ceremony. 

Luckily, Personal Creations has created a Bridesmaid Duties Guide that makes the process easier. They've broken down each bridesmaid duty by month, so the wedding party can breathe easier knowing they have a plan. This means more time for popping bubbly, and less time for stress eating wedding cake samples. Check out the guide to get started, and happy planning!

How to Choose Your Wedding Party

How to Choose Your Wedding Party | Photo by Angela Cox | Bespoken www.bespokenweddings.com

Choosing your wedding party is very important to most brides and grooms because you want some of the most important people in your life standing next to you on your big day. Most wedding parties consist of 8-12 people but can have more or less depending on the style, type, and size of the wedding. Stuck on trying to figure out who to invite to stand next to you at the altar? Hopefully, I can help you narrow your options down.

How to Choose Your Wedding Party | Photo by Angela Cox | Bespoken www.bespokenweddings.com

The Maid of Honor: Typically, this is the bride’s sister. If a bride has more than one sister, she usually invites the one closest in age to be the MOH. (If you’re lucky and have two sisters and one is married, you can have a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor!) No sister? Ask your best friend. Two best friends? Who says you can’t have two maids of honor? Some brides have even chosen their brother or close male friend to be their maid of honor, and have just given them more of a masculine role. Today’s wedding rules are not what they were yesterday; you can get away with quite a bit. No matter what - choose someone you can trust and rely on. The MOH has many responsibilities, so if your best friend is a little scatter-brained, you may want to consider someone else.

The Best Man: This is basically the same as above. Traditionally, the groom asks his brother(s) to be the best man; however, a close female friend, sister, or any other good friend may be your best man. Consider your dad, too! BONUS TIP: Pick someone who gets along with the bride!

How to Choose Your Wedding Party | Photo by Angela Cox | Bespoken www.bespokenweddings.com

Bridesmaids and Groomsmen: Ask close friends to join you on your big day. Siblings trump friends! If your groom has a sister (or bride has a brother), consider adding them to your bridal party. And remember to choose friends who will be friends with you long after you say, ”I do.” DON’T ask someone to be in your wedding just because you were in hers/his.

Flower Girl and Ring Bearer: While not every bride and groom opt to have a little one walk down the aisle, many who are close to small children definitely choose to include them in their wedding. BONUS TIP: Since children aren’t expected to act like adults, try to make sure your flower girl and ring bearer are at least four years old.

Still frustrated? Keep it simple: Choose friends who you consider to be family.

All images:  Angela Cox. Take a look at the rest of this gorgeous wedding here.

Will You Be My Bridesmaid? Gift Ideas

Will you be my bridesmaid? Gift Box ideas

The girls who stand next to you on your big day are very important to you, and many brides are now opting to "propose" to their bridesmaids by asking them to be a part of their wedding in a creative way. Some are extravagant, some are simple, but almost all are super thoughtful. So for those of you looking for a little inspiration, I've rounded up some items I would consider putting in a "Will You Be My Bridesmaid?" box for all of my besties.

A Personalized Wine Label:  Buy a bottle of wine for each bridesmaid, and then order a personalized wine label. Adhere the wine label to each bottle of wine, and gift away! There are several of them out there for you to choose from, but I love these that I found on Etsy.

Nail Polish:  Buy each bridesmaid 1-2 colors of nail polish. You could give them something neutral or pink, or you could also give them colors that will match your wedding. A personal favorite of mine is Essie's Ballet Slippers.

A Cute Card:  Again, just like the wine labels, there are ton of these out there, so search what you like most. Personally, I like these:

A Pretty Planner:  Whether it's Lilly Pulitzer, Kate Spade, or another planner of your choosing, you could always buy a planner for each bridesmaid and write all of the important wedding dates in them prior to giving them to your girls.

 Lilly Pulitzer Planner via  Pretty Preppy

Lilly Pulitzer Planner via Pretty Preppy

Paint Chips or Fabric Swatches in Your Wedding Colors:  Drop by your local hardware store, and grab a few paint chip samples in your wedding colors for each bridesmaid. If you have a little extra money, you could go to your local fabric store, and purchase a few sample fabric swatches in your wedding colors instead. Add your colors to the bridesmaid box to give your girls a little inspiration and more excitement!

Other Ideas:

There you go! Gather all of your gifts (or give one simple item like the wine bottle with personalized label or planner), and arrange them in a wooden box, pretty decorative box, canvas tote, or basket.

What other ideas do you have?