Your Wedding Playlist Cheat Sheet

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Creating your wedding playlist can be fun and, yet, overwhelming. There are so many songs to choose from. There are also several moments throughout your entire wedding that you will need to specify songs for, and today I'm giving you a quick little cheat sheet on those moments. While you may not need a specific song for some of these, you'll still want to provide general ideas or genres to your musicians or entertainment, and they can choose for you.

  • Prelude music/Seating of Guests (typically you'll suggest a genre to your Ceremony musicians)
  • Family Processional
  • Wedding Party Processional
  • Bride Processional
  • Songs During the Ceremony
  • Recessional
  • Cocktail Hour Music (typically you'll suggest a genre to your Band or DJ)
  • Introduction of the Wedding Party
  • Introduction of the Bride & Groom
  • First Dance
  • Father-Daughter Dance
  • Mother-Son Dance
  • Dinner Music (again, you'll typically suggest a genre to your Band or DJ)
  • Cake Cutting
  • Garter Toss
  • Bouquet Toss
  • Last Dance

And don't forget your "Do Not Play" list! This is a list of song you do not want your DJ or Band to play...even if someone requests it!

Have fun!

Real Wedding: Katherine & Brandon

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It was a beautiful day in September in Easley, just outside of Greenville, SC, when Katherine & Brandon got married. Both their Ceremony and Reception were beautiful and were reflections of the two of them. And when the photos from Davey Morgan came back, I had a really hard time choosing my favorites because they are all so good!

I also asked Katherine a few questions so she could tell you about their wedding in her own words. It was such a perfect evening...

Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events

How did you two meet? We met in nursing school through our mutual friend Heather. I think we both had seen each other around but we never spoke until Heather introduced us!

How long have you been together? 3 years

Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events

What was your favorite moment and/or detail from your wedding? I think my favorite moment was our actual ceremony. We had it at Greenbrier Farms under the big tree at 6 pm, and it was beautiful! Our wedding was in September so the weather was perfect, and the sun was just starting to go down. It was honestly more beautiful than I ever could have imagined!

How was your experience working with us for your wedding? Shannon was such a pleasure to work with! She made everything so easy and took care of every last detail so I didn't have to worry about anything. I am so glad that we hired her!

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Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events

What would you have done differently during your planning process? I honestly don't think I would have done anything differently.

How would you describe your overall wedding experience? My overall wedding experience was great. Everyone from the people at the venue to Shannon and her team were so helpful and really made me feel special on our wedding day.

Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events

Did you see each other before the wedding? If not, did you like waiting, or would you have done it differently? Tell us why and why not! Yes we did a First Look a few hours before the ceremony with just us, and I am so glad that we did. I liked being able to have that moment between just Brandon and I before the actual ceremony. The pictures from that First Look are some of my favorite!

Tell us about your dress! Where did you find it, how did you choose it, and how did you know it is the one? I seriously loved my dress, I'm trying to find another occasion where it would be acceptable to wear haha :) I found it at Bridals by Lori in Atlanta, and my mom actually picked it out for me to try on. I went into dress shopping thinking I wanted one style of dress and my dress I picked was the opposite of that! I think the detailing on the back really sold me on it when I tried it on; the back was sheer and had some really pretty detailing.

Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events

What were you most anxious, nervous, or fearful about regarding your wedding day, and what was the outcome? I am a very type-A person who likes things to be done a certain way which can be difficult sometimes, but I think I was just nervous overall about everything coming together. But I had nothing to worry about because Shannon and the venue did an incredible job from everything to the ceremony site, to the flowers and food!

What wedding planning advice would you offer to couples who are currently planning their wedding? I would say just to enjoy this time because it goes by so fast! And to have fun and not let little things stress you out.

Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events

Any tips on what to bring/pack for your wedding day? Honestly, between my bridesmaids, mom and Shannon, I don't think I really had to bring anything haha! They took care of everything for me. I don't even think I had or knew where my cell phone was half the day! (My maid of honor usually had it). And if you forget anything, Shannon had this amazing kit that literally had anything you could ever want in it! My bridesmaids were amazed by it haha :)

Any tips on how to prepare to work with Bespoken? I would say if you just have a basic idea of what you want your wedding to be Shannon can help make it exactly what you want!

Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events
Real Wedding in Greenville, SC | Farm, Outdoor, Summer, Purple, Mauve, Gray, Greenery | Greenbrier Farms | Davey Morgan Photography | Bespoken Weddings & Events

What was the first song you danced to as Newlyweds? Father-Daughter Dance song? Mother-Son Dance Song? The first song we danced to "In Case You Didn't Know" by Brett Young and the father-daughter dance was "I Loved Her First" by Heartland.

Anything else you'd like to share? Working with Shannon was such a great experience! She helped make our wedding day one of the best days of our lives!

As a side-note: I had no idea Katherine was going to say such sweet things about me and my team...thank you so much! 

Why You Should Do a First Look

One of the things we always ask our wedding clients is whether or not they plan on doing a First Look before their ceremony. Most of the time, they ask what a First Look is and whether or not we think they should do one. Unless the couple is super traditional, we usually recommend a First Look...and today we are sharing why.

But first...what is a First Look?

A First Look is a special moment between the Bride and Groom when the two can see each other before the wedding. Typically, the Groom is positioned with his back to the Bride, overlooking a field, mountains, lake, etc. Then the Bride approaches him, tapping him on the shoulder for him to turn around, and the photographer(s) will capture their facial expressions and emotions upon seeing each other for the first time. First Looks are becoming more and more popular, and we can certainly see why.

Should we do a First Look?

Most of the time, we're going to suggest, "Yes, do a First Look." Here's why:

  1. It'll ease the pressure and calm your nerves. We can pull every trick in the book to calm you down, but you're still going to be excited/anxious/nervous before walking down the aisle. Having a bunch of people watch you as you walk down the aisle can be overwhelming. In the midst of all of those emotions, you may not be able to fully enjoy the moment. By doing a First Look, you'll see each other before getting married, and 9 times out of 10, this eases the pressure. You'll feel lighter, and you'll know that you're there for each other. 
  2. It's a special, private moment for the two of you. Wedding days are SO busy and go by SO quickly. Typically, you'll hardly get time to spend alone with each other. A First Look gives you the opportunity to spend some quiet time alone with just the two of you without everyone else vying for your attention. (If you're interested in other ways to make sure you enjoy time alone, be sure to read this article).
  3. It gives you more time for photos and video. More than likely, your photographer and videographer are going to love the fact that you are choosing to do a First Look because it opens up so much more time for other photo/video ops. You'll be able to get more photos of the entire Wedding Party, families, and each other. Especially each other. These photos you'll be able to get of just each other will give you even more beautiful, intimate photos to enjoy forever.
  4. You'll be able to enjoy Cocktail Hour. By taking care of the majority of the photos before the wedding, you won't have as many to take after ceremony, which means you can join the rest of your guests for Cocktail Hour. 

What are everyone's thoughts on a First Look? Yes or No?

10 Tips for Planning Your Wedding at The Biltmore Estate

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One of the benefits of living and working in Greenville, SC is the fact that we are close to major destination wedding locations like Asheville and Charleston which means we have ready access to some pretty beautiful wedding venues. One of my favorite wedding venues in Asheville is The Biltmore Estate. Nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains, The Biltmore Estate is a beautiful home and grounds built in the 1890s by George Vanderbilt. With a wide variety of options of wedding venues on-site to choose from, you’re sure to find the perfect fit for your wedding.

Planning a destination wedding can be a bit overwhelming, though, so today I’m offering 10 tips on planning your Biltmore wedding in Asheville (And hint, hint: These tips can also be adjusted for any destination wedding location!):

TIP #1:  CHOOSE THE BEST VENUE AND LOCATION

The Biltmore has so many different options. Booking The Diana gives you a special view of the Biltmore House with the Blue Ridge Mountains peeking out behind it. Deerpark has both indoor and outdoor options, with the outdoor option being a beautiful open-air courtyard with beautiful trees surrounding it. The Conservatory is a beautiful upscale greenhouse that can accommodate up to 75 guests. The Gardens, Front Lawn, and Terrace offer a variety of outdoor options. And the Champagne Cellar at the Winery, with its stone walls and European elegance, is built for a more intimate wedding of up to 30 guests. You really can’t go wrong.

TIP #2:  CHOOSE AN IDEAL WEDDING DATE & CONSIDER THE SEASONS

Most destination wedding locations are going to have high season during tourist season. Like most of the United States, North Carolina experiences all four seasons. Most weddings take place in the spring or fall in Asheville. While snowstorms aren’t a huge threat, you should still be cognizant of them. You also may want to check for any major festivals happening on any dates you are considering. If there’s a festival going on, you may run into problems in securing room blocks for your guests. So make sure you secure a date as soon as possible and start booking hotel blocks before tourists take them all :)

TIP #3:  SECURE HOTEL ROOM BLOCKS

Be sure to secure room blocks for your guests. If several or most of your guests are coming from out of town, be considerate and reserve hotel room blocks at a discounted price. There are several options for hotels in Asheville. There are even options within Biltmore.

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TIP #4:  HIRE A WEDDING PLANNER

Hire a wedding planner. It’s especially important that you hire a wedding planner when hosting a destination wedding. If you don’t hire a full or partial wedding planner, at least hire a day-of coordinator so you can relax and enjoy your wedding day.

TIP #5:  PLAN A VISIT OR TWO

It’s so important that you plan at least one visit to your destination wedding location - whether it’s Asheville, Charleston, Miami, or the Bahamas. Schedule as many meetings as you can...especially your tasting! It’s also a good idea to book your hair and makeup trial while you are in town. But also make sure you schedule some fun activities, too! Spa visits, wine tastings, walking down hiking trails, visiting microbreweries, and shopping are all local favorites in Asheville.

TIP #6:  GET LOCAL

Ask your wedding planner for vendor referrals. He or she will be able to recommend local vendors (florists, bakers, rental companies, etc.) that are familiar with the area and know the lay of the land.

TIP #7:  LET YOUR GUESTS KNOW

Don’t forget to let your guests know in advance about your destination wedding at The Biltmore. This will give your loved ones ample time to plan for the trip and festivities. And don’t forget a wedding website!

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TIP #8:  CURATE WELCOME BAGS

Take care of your guests and put together thoughtful, carefully curated welcome bags that you leave at the hotels. Sourcing local specialties from Asheville (or wherever you are getting married) is always a nice touch! Think local coffee beans, jams/jellies, drinks, soaps, etc. You could even throw in tickets to a tour of the House, Winery, or just a list of suggested local activities.

TIP #9:  CREATE EXPERIENCES FOR YOUR GUESTS

If it’s in the budget, you can arrange for the hotels to implement a nightly turn-down service where they also leave a small gift that you’ve designated them to leave each night of your guests’ stay. Another idea is to arrange for fun activities (happy hour,  brunch, etc.) for your guests to enjoy together.

TIP #10:  SHIP THINGS AHEAD OF TIME

If you’re renting specialty linens or if you have a lot of personal decor, it’s a good idea to ship these items 2-3 weeks before your wedding to cut down on costs and any last minute hold-ups. You can always ship these to your wedding planner!

So whether you choose The Biltmore Estate or another destination wedding venue, these tips will definitely get you started! Interested in working with us to help plan your wedding? We’d love to hear about it!

The Inspiration Behind Our Moody Ocean-Inspired Styled Shoot

My love of the ocean is no secret, so when a few amazing local vendors decided they wanted to collaborate on an ocean-inspired shoot, my heart did a few flips. I designed a Mood Board to help capture the feel, look, and mood of the shoot and sent it out to all of the creative partners involved. I'm sharing that Mood Board with you today :)

All images pulled from Pinterest

All images pulled from Pinterest

We changed the blue color palette to more of a purple/mauve palette and ended up throwing in some more tropical textures, but overall, the end result was amazing, and if you haven't seen the feature on Ruffled or our own blog post on it, be sure to check them out!